“I live each day more simply. I try not to think about all that could happen. I think about what I have and what I enjoy.”

DOUG POMPEY’S STORY

In my life, I’ve been incredibly lucky to know my wife. Together, we’ve raised three children, moved across the country, welcomed grandchildren, said goodbye to one of our sons, and experienced so much together. She’s been my rock, the love of my life, and my person.

And for the past 10 years, she’s been facing a serious lung cancer diagnosis. During this time, I’ve gone to countless medical visits, traveled across states to get second opinions, and stood by her side to support her– but in reality, she is the one who has given me strength throughout all of this.

There are times when I’ve felt completely overwhelmed, I constantly question if I am doing enough to help her. But throughout it all, my wife’s bravery, determination, and resilience continue to inspire me and push me forward.

While our road hasn’t been easy, it’s made me more appreciative for all the small moments we share. When you don’t know how much time you have left together, every experience becomes something to celebrate.

While I have worries about what the future may hold, I’ve found so much to be grateful for. One of the many joys in my life is playing basketball with my grandchildren. It’s therapeutic for me. After I make a shot in a game, there’s a moment when I’m tired and exhausted, and I have to get back on defense. While I’m running back down the court, I could stress about what’s next, but I don’t. I take a second to celebrate the score and enjoy the moment. I feel the wind, I feel the breeze, and I feel calm. I feel happy.

The same goes for spending time caring for my wife. I enjoy our time together, relish the small victories, and appreciate all she has overcome. While cancer always puts us in defense mode, having this mentality helps me live in the moment and take stock of all the blessing that I have.